Re: Ping: Petem

[Jim <alarminex@xxxxxxx>]

On Jan 6, 4:06=EF=BF=BDpm, JoeRaisin <joeraisin2...@xxxxxxxxx> wrote:
>
> One thing I have found in my meanderings though the ebbs and flows of
> life is that even the most sincere effort to make amends often falls
> upon deaf ears.
>
> Being rejected, isn't always a reflection of some failing on the part of
> the person doing the rejecting. =EF=BF=BDSome feel that forgiveness is gi=
ving
> past poor behavior a pass and, to them, that isn't acceptable.
>
> Fair enough from their perspective.
>
> That isn't how I see it. =EF=BF=BDIMHO, forgiveness is letting go of past
> resentments, though the actions are remembered. =EF=BF=BDAs we are fond o=
f
> saying in another forum I participate on, "a resentment is me drinking
> poison, hoping you die..."
>
> =EF=BF=BDFrom my perspective, offering amends is a way of making peace wi=
th my
> own poor behavior. =EF=BF=BDI have found that as long as the offer is hon=
estly
> extended, the manner in which it is received has only a little effect on
> the outcome. =EF=BF=BDI meant it - and should the person have a change of=
 heart
> later on (which has happened) I follow through.
>
> The honest intentions (which is known ONLY to the person extending the
> olive branch) has more to do with coming to peace with myself than any
> forgiveness I may have garnered from others. =EF=BF=BDBy the same token, =
amends
> offered with less than rigorous honesty doesn't help what you see in the
> mirror regardless of any forgiveness from others.
>
> It all boils down to the fact that what I think about myself is far more
> important than what others may think of me.-


This is not either supporting or opposing anything that you said
(which I do on both counts) but,

nicely said.